The day has come! Ben is potty training! For about 1 year the kid has been so resistant to even try, but about 5 days ago, after refusing to go potty for about 5 hours, Eunkyung just grabbed him, held him down on his potty, and he went to the bathroom. Ben saw what he did and smiled!
So far in the past 5 days he has had only 2 accidents, and no accidents while sleeping! It’s crazy how darn fast this kid can pick up the trend. However, the only issue we are having, which is not really an issue, is that Ben after he goes to the potty will ask for the diaper right after. I usually have to tell him that he doesn’t need it anymore and then looks sad, which is kinda cute!
He is just so attached to his diaper. I guess from the day he was born all he knew was being in a diaper. Its funny, cute, and weird to think that Ben’s diaper is like his comfort blanket. Also that Ben would only prefer and wear the Sam’s Club brand diaper. He will not or shall I say, would not ever wear any other brand.
But now, Ben is moving into a different era in his life. No more diaper, which means his one piece of his comfort will be going away forever. He must go through a big change of belief, trust, and faith. That is part of growing up. We should be making changes in our life. Sometimes life in general forces change, but, we, ourselves, must be willing to make changes in our own life in order to meet certain challenges or just meet that desire to make change.
Sometimes we have to realize that the thing that may have given us comfort and stability will not give us the same feeling as it did before. So instead of trying to hold on to “what was,” why not gravitating to “what will be.”
That is the fun part of life; challenges. Sometimes we just need a bit of frustration in order to find true joy, that is when we accomplish what was giving us frustration! For Ben, he faces the challenge of a life and world without a diaper. But each day, each circumstance, each scenario will provide a new opportunity for him to face stress and have faith in a new system that has replaced the diaper system. Each day he will find victory or embarrassment, but that is all ok, because he is moving in a direction of a new state of mind, understanding of faith, and eventually a fresh world.
Living is about growth and becoming. Never think that everything will always stay stable or “the same.” The only thing stable in our life is God. And that God is all about living and having each one His children grow in the midst of challenges. It is God who tells us to explore, challenge, change, while standing next to us saying, “I will always be your foundation.” It’s ultimately putting our faith in God. Because as we change, the world changes, we realize that if we put our comfort and trust on “things” in this world, whether it is political systems, justice systems, people, objects, money, wall street, education, welfare, or healthcare, those are all the things that are suspect to change. When all those things change, we can feel certain kind of stress. But it is always God telling us to never put your faith on things that can and will change. Put faith on God who does not change. At the same time the changes that happen on the “things” in our world should never gives us worry or stress, because if we already had our faith on God, the “things” in the world really doesn’t matter. Easier said than done right? As a matter of fact maybe it is God causing those changes in our world in order for us to grow and thrive! Maybe it is God giving us the opportunity to be more than we originally realized, to accomplish a task that we first felt is impossible, and ultimately God giving us these occasions for a higher atmosphere of joy to experience.
You can’t always be in a diaper for the rest of your life. As stressful as it is to force yourself to face challenges, I know that w new feeling of immense joy will be felt once to find victory over such challenges. It’s not a feeling of “patting yourself on the back,” but more about feeling freedom. Finding a new source of power and strength. It is building a confidence of faith in overcoming all challenges.
Hey this is Rev. Brian Choi's random thought throughout my week. Most of this stuff, will probably be about family, church, fishing, music, movies, food, whatever I think of, hopefully it will have some sort of theological reflection (maybe).